Frequently Asked Questions

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What can Integrative Spiritual Psychology (ISP) do to help me?

Whether you're an individual or part of a couple seeking help, ISP can help you face and overcome many different issues. Common reasons people seek out this service range from personal growth to help with stress, anxiety, feelings of being stuck, depression or anger to issues of transition or more chronic or serious problems. The focus can be on understanding yourself better so you can make positive choices for yourself or on acquiring skills such as communicating more effectively and managing conflict with people around you, learning to effectively deal with the difficult people in your life, or on better aligning with your spiritual purpose. The ultimate goal is learning the internal and external skills and thoughts that will support you in the life you want to live. Also, see, "Who Can Benefit from Integrative Spiritual Psychology?"

ISP recognizes that change is made from the inside out. The unlimited potential that lies within you has been recognized and proclaimed by the ancients since time immemorial. But, it is buried under concepts of limitation and suppressed negative feelings held within the subconscious. Every suppressed feeling is a suppressed energy that unless released and eliminated will continue to express itself. Holding it within keeps it subconsciously active, which stimulates thoughts that hold you back from achieving whatever it is that you want. Awareness must precede understanding, which then can lead to action.

We are all in this great classroom called earth, trying to discover the ultimate and we are all looking for it externally where it ISN"T. If we will only turn our direction back upon ourselves, we will discover that it's right here where I am. Where you are—right in your very own being.

We do know that Integrative Spiritual Psychology has allowed many to lead healthier, happier, more meaningful and fulfilling lives. The fit with your therapist is very important, but even more important is your willingness to be actively involved.

Who do you work with?

I see adults in my private practice, and have experience helping individuals as well as couples. Always the relationship is one of respect and compassion. Together we will work to create a safe, nonjudgmental, loving and affirming space—sacred, open and spacious so that together we will help you attain your goals. As your therapist/guide, I will seek to offer balance, support and stimulation, as needed.

What if I don't know exactly what I want?

Many people enter counseling without a clear idea of exactly what they want to get out of it. You may come in with a malaise and an uncomfortable feeling that your life is not going in exactly the right direction, although you may not yet know exactly what the right direction is. Through my long years of experience and learned techniques, I can help you hone in on what is troubling you and I can help you move towards solution.

Is there a lot of paperwork to get started?

When you schedule your first appointment with me, I will give you a questionnaire to return to me on the second visit. This one-page questionnaire will help me know a little bit about you and your background and your responses will help us work as purposefully and as clearly as possible, providing some definition of the path we will travel.

How often do we meet?

Especially at the beginning, appointments are scheduled on a weekly basis for consistency, continuity and effectiveness. It's important for us to establish a good working relationship, and there's a lot of important information about your situation that you'll want to share with me so that I can help you as fully as possible. The weekly sessions create just the right amount of focus and attention that will give you the needed time in between sessions to reflect on your new insights and understandings and practice new behaviors. As you begin making progress on the issue or issues, which brought you in, we can discuss the spacing of your visits.

What happens when we meet?

Our sessions will last 50 minutes. In the first session, I will go over my policies and gather information about what brings you in so I can begin assessing what you are dealing with and how I may best help you. We'll discuss your goals and what signs will tell you that things are moving forward. I'll get your input about your best way of working. As we continue to meet, I'll ask questions, make suggestions, and share insights/information/resources. I tailor my approach to your reflections and feedback, even if your needs and goals change over time.

What if I don't want to talk about something you bring up?

You don't have to tell me anything that you don't want to. Especially at first, when you are getting to know me, it can be uncomfortable to talk about some things—and you may not want to. As you begin to develop more trust towards me, you may find yourself more willing to share relevant information that will be helpful to your progress. Remember that counseling is inherently uncomfortable to some degree. You are choosing this path to help you relieve a greater unhappiness in your life. At whatever point you are ready to tell me new information, know that I will receive it with compassion and understanding. You will never be forced to address areas you don't want to. The pacing will depend on you. We are both involved in this process for your growth and for your healing.

Is my information kept private?

I keep your information strictly confidential. With a few exceptions, only you can give permission for me to release information about you.

What about the financial side of your services?

My fees are flexible and reasonable and we can discuss these at our first session. I will do everything I can to make this service financially possible for you.

How long does therapy take?

The short answer is "It depends." You know from your own struggles, that the problem that is bringing you in has defied your best efforts, so far. There are just too many variables to say for certain what it will take to break the impasse. Usually, it takes less time to resolve an issue than it took the problem to settle into your life and start causing problems. One of the top factors for predicting success is our working relationship. You will have a sense within several sessions whether we are on the right track.

How does therapy end?

I keep in mind the ending of your work with me from your first appointment, and we talk about it periodically. Some people prefer to taper off, some don't. Of course, you can end therapy at any point. A planned ending will give you a bonus opportunity that we often don't get in real life: a chance for an intentional, mutual goodbye and acknowledgement of the work and relationship.

The closing sessions are just as important as the opening sessions and many people appreciate being able to consolidate their learning, acknowledge their accomplishments, and discuss next steps. And you are always welcome to come back in to address an issue or issues at a higher turn of the spiral (from a deeper perspective), or for the occasional refresher.